My Big Wish List (for myself and humanity): # 7 No Borders! (and I don't mean the book store!)

STOP!  I need to see your passport before you read this!

This is a BIG ONE: No borders. 

Well…we ARE a BIG ONE, so let’s BE a BIG ONE! Think about it…borders are IMAGINARY “lines” someONE else made and clearly, we do not all AGREE on them.  For further reference: Ask any Indigenous people—and there are—at least—5000 different “groups” of Indigenous sharing this planet with us right NOW—that we KNOW of!  *Or perhaps ask an Israeli or a Palestinian?  A LOT of the CONFLICT on this planet is directly related to borders (imaginary lines)—which, literally and figuratively, SEPARATE US and perpetuate Duality-based thinking and living (Us vs Them, Hutu vs Tutsi, North vs South, the USA vs everyONE, etc.) 

Basically, a border says: “I have a right to this SPACE because I KILLED enough people for it!  MINE! MINE!”  So, let me get this right, dear MAN KIND, our entire planet is “mapped”, determined, governed by BULLIES?!!!!!  Wow!  

No ONE says it better than St. John Lennon,

Imagine there's no heaven

It's easy if you try


No hell below us

Above us only sky


Imagine all the people
Living for today...

Imagine there's no countries


It isn't hard to do

Nothing to kill or die for


And no religion too


Imagine all the people

Living life in peace...

You may say I'm a dreamer

But I'm not the only one


I hope someday you'll join us

And the world will be as ONE

Imagine no possessions

I wonder if you can

No need for greed or hunger

A brotherhood of man


Imagine all the people


Sharing all the world...

You may say I'm a dreamer


But I'm not the only one


I hope someday you'll join us


And the world will live as ONE

Yes, it always comes back to ONEness, right?!

LIVE your bliss (instead of TALKING about it!)

The Goofy G.u.r.u. 

My Big Wish List (for myself and humanity): # 6 Radical Honesty

WARNING:  Radical Honesty is HIGHLY CONTAGIOUS—as soon as YOU start being radically honest with yourself and then when interacting with others, well, HONESTY will spread faster than tuberculosis!

“Radical Honesty”, as introduced by Dr. Brad Blanton, is a means of DIRECTLY, CLEARLY, you know…honestly, communicating with ONE another.  What a RADICAL concept, right?! 

You know…sharing what YOU REALLY THINK/FEEL/WANT/NEED/ LOVE/ FEAR with others?! *And without worrying HOW others will respond?!  Isn’t it RIDICULOUS that we crawled out of the ocean (according to some); developed our OWN buffet of flavorful WORDS and LANUGUAGES (even SIGN LANGUAGE and MUSIC!); invented the wheel and “The Clapper”; launched bloody SPACE STATIONS; cloned farm animals; and yet, we cannot SPEAK honestly with ONE another! Ricolaaaaaaa—DICULOUS!

Dr. Blanton was kind enough to study the impact of Radical Honesty on some human guinea pigs (*and while I am here, let’s STOP testing on animals PLEASE!)  His studies confirmed (because HE BELIEVED they would!) that people become “more happy”/feel “more FREE” when they are being HONEST about themselves TO THEMSELVES and OTHERS, even the painful and taboo stuff (like Mime Fetishes)!  Honesty creates instant and authentic intimacy between/among people; in other words, Honesty DISARMS others.  What did we say as kids?  “Here, look at my boo boo!”  And what did we get in return for SHARING OUR WOUNDS?  A kiss on the boo boo, right?!

Radical Honesty is ALL about speaking with INTEGRITY, authenticity, “being REAL”, TRUTH, SHARING, OPENESS, Vulnerability, and connecting through verbal communication (which is EXACTLY why we created words and language in the first place!  To be able to CLEARLY COMMUNICATE with others!) And just so you know, Radical Honesty is not always pretty.  Radical Honesty is about TRANSPARENCY—there are NO SECRETS with Radical Honesty.  

Can you IMAGINE if our WORLD LEADERS, GOVERMENTS, CORPORATIONS, CHURCHES, practiced Radical Honesty, too?   Radical Honesty naturally warrants TRANSPARENCY and thus, ACCOUNTABILITY—attributes we are lacking in modern times, no?   

Naturally, Radical Honesty starts with YOU practicing BEING HONEST with YOURSELF. I.e., Ask anyONE, I have a TEMPER.  I am notorious for spectacular PUBLIC TANTRUMS (just ask any Airport Security!!)  However, I see how these Bollywood-esque tantrums benefit and serve me as release of healthy anger, sometimes a shared release with others, and surely, entertainment and education for some.  One of my infamous tantrums saved Marcos and I from being BUSTED in Mexico, by the Mexican Army, during our “Operation Smuggle Marcos”!  Hell!  My tantrums brought AIDS drugs to Africa!

Radical Honesty is about identifying and LOVING ALL aspects of OURSELVES: the “good”, the “bad”, and the “ugly.”  From this place of Self-LOVE and Self-AWAREness, we can honestly communicate with others.

In order to practice and LIVE Radical Honesty, there are some “things” you need to LET GO:

Let Go of the need to please others—not your job!  YOUR JOB is to PLEASE YOURSELF.  If others are not happy, well that is THEIR STORY, not yours!

Let Go of being politically-ERECT—everyONE and their cousin knows when you say “African American”, you mean a “black” person…besides most of the “African Americans” I know could not find bloody Senegal on a map, much less speak an African language.  THE MORE YOU LABEL YOURSELF, the MORE you SEPARATE YOURSELF—which perpetuates Duality-thinking (Us vs Them, Man vs Woman, Man vs Nature, Good vs Evil, Pepsi vs Coca Cola, etc.)  *And in case you did not get the tweet, we are returning to ONEness!

Let GO of trying to impress others—have you ever stopped to look at just how much time, energy and money you spend TRYING to MAKE YOURSELF look GOOD to OTHERS?  You want people to think you are smart/funny/spiritual/happy/generous/loving/profound/worldy/wealthy/whatever—why can’t you just BELIEVE you are LOVABLE JUST AS YOU ARE?!!!

Let Go of OLD STORIES about yourself (and others!)—using Radical Honesty, you can change YOUR story!  Tired of being “the victim”—then bloody well TELL people, “Dude, I am NOT playing the victim role any more—didn’t you get my tweet?”   Practice saying “No, thank you”, when you really do not want to do something!  You know damn well when you do something you do not REALLY want to do to please someONE else, you end up RESENTING IT and that resentment shows up as illness, dis-ease and violence in all its forms (from sarcasm to physical and psychological).

Let GO of your “manners” – Etiquette is merely a conditioning tool, a code of behavior set according to contemporary “conventional norms” (WTF does THAT mean?!) within a society, social class or group. Keep in mind, back in the 50’s, it was “proper etiquette” that black people use separate toilets—WTF?!! Question MANNERS every time they surface; some manners may still be valuable to us. But if etiquette (children: “be seen, not heard”) prevents you from BEING YOU—well, get rid of it!   To quote Thomas Edison, “There are no RULES here!  We are trying to accomplish something!”

Let Go of Gossip— I think Eleanor Roosevelt said it best: “Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.”  Really, there is nothing LESS HONEST than talking negatively about others, because fuck—you barely KNOW yourself, how can you possibly CLAIM TO KNOW OTHERS?! 

Let GO of being “Right”-- Radical Honesty is also about admitting when we are wrong; when we have made a mistake.  It is about ACCOUNTABILITY.   When we have truth, then we have accountability, and then, finally, we can have RECONCILIATION.

For experiment’s sake, how about we ALL TRY RADICAL HONESTY and see how it feels! Feel FREE to SHARE your radically honest experiences!

LIVE your bliss,

The Goofy G.u.r.u. 

My Big Wish List (for myself and humanity): # 5 Radically new political systems

Feudalism “worked” for a long while (aka, “The Dark Ages”).  Communism didn’t last but a few decades.  Every day another monarchy, aristocracy, oligarchy, or theocracy is turned over by some other legislative body.  Imperialism is not working any more (Face It:  We (the USA) are Imperialists!), no one likes totalitarianism or dictatorship (well, except the leaders and their posse!), and socialism is dying out.  And the flaws of democracy can no longer be concealed with capitalistic makeup (Need proof?  Then just watch ANY news show!)  The world needs a Botox injection of fresh new political and economical ideas!  

What can we co-create that will be BETTER, more enlightened than modern Democracy (as we know it)? First off, if I had the answer to this question, I would not be writing this little blog …I am sincerely hoping/praying people (economists) are working on this question day and night!!  There HAS to be better system than what we currently identify as “democracy.”

“Violence is to dictatorship as propaganda is to democracy,” Noam Chomsky. 

So what I want to know, who is working on this?!  And I want names! 

Live your bliss,

Goofy G.u.r.u 

PS--My even deeper INTENTION is that Humanity as a whole will reach a state of ONEness where we will no longer need political systems and will be completely SELF-GOVERNING! :)

Lets' talk about ANGER: A fucking strong CALL for CHANGE

Anger is not good or bad; it just IS.  How you CHOOSE to APPLY your anger is the difference between pain and suffering (for self and others), and true inner peace and enlightenment. Anger is simply a very strong BILOLOGICAL TOOL (in the form of ENERGY) to instruct you to TAKE ACTION.  Anger is the SPARK of SOCIAL and INNER CHANGE (as above, is below, no?)  Anger is what PROTECTS our families and loved ones from imminent danger.  Anger is a MOTIVATING FORCE that can push us into very positive actions—you know, like ALL CIVIL RIGHTS movements!  Anger can fuel our “NO!” which protects us from further emotional, psychological or physical abuse (anger impels us to stand up for ourselves!)   Anger is a bloody strong CALL FOR CHANGE.

 So IF you are currently feeling anger, it means something in your LIFE NEEDS TO CHANGE!

However, very early on, as early as kindergarten, we are CONDITIONED to SUPPRESS our anger.  We are PUNISHED for expressing ANGER: “Bobby, APOLOGIZE to Suzy RIGHT NOW!”  Why?  Well, Don’t rock the Boat, Baby!  It is a CONTROL MECHANISM set in place to ensure status quo. And who dictates status quo? The people running this “show”/world and let’s be honest—I don’t think anyONE is really happy with the state of the planet right now!  Even those who have benefited most (aka, corporations, governments and the people behind them) are starting to feel uncomfortable.  Good-- because it won’t be until everyONE is uncomfortable that TRUE CHANGE on this planet can be ACHIEVED.

It is critical that we RELEASE/GET OUT this anger in healthy, productive ways because when we suppress anger, it builds up in our CELLS and shows up again as dis-ease/illness (when turned inwards), negativity, DEPRESSION (also anger turned inwards), leaks out into ALL our daily rituals like work, sleep, eating habits, DRIVING (Road Rage?  Really? Ridiculous!), contaminates our RELATIONSHIPS, OR worst case, we show up at an elementary school with an AK-47. 

There are many ways to RELEASE/LET GO of anger (and I am hoping people will start SHARING methods that work for them!) but all of them are about GETTING THE ANGER OUT OF your BODY and MIND.  *NOTE:  The HEART does not SPEAK ANGER, only LOVE.

Personally, every once in a while, I like to throw an old skool TANTRUM in public, for a classic Kelly example, read my “I Fought the Airport Law and the Airport Law Won (Twice)”.  If it is REALLY bad, I dedicate a whole day (or evening) to having a proper Self Pity Party—complete with blaring classical music; wine; incense and candles; hair-pulling and other Bollywood-esque gestures of torment; throwing things; ripping up stuff; primal screaming; and all that.  A well-done Self Pity Party never fails to EXHAUST me and then, inevitably, at some point, I always SEE HOW ridiculous I am being and then, I end up LAUGHING at myself!

Of course, you can also write your ANGER OUT!  *True Story:  I was SO ANGRY about the AIDS HOT MESS in Africa (then later, the world!), I started writing out my ANGER in “Letters to the Editor” of any publication I could find.  These same, very ANGRY Letters to the Editor not only got the attention of Reuters (who would hire me as a Health and Sciences Reporter for the entire Sub-Saharan Africa Region) but also got me A LOT of MONEY AND RESOURCES to CHANGE shit over there BIG TIME.

You can also RELEASE ANGER physically!  You know…running, martial arts, kick boxing, ANY HIGHLY aerobic sport or exercise. These are just a few ways, I have let go of my anger, but I am hoping people will start sharing about OTHER METHODS that have worked for them. 

HINT:  If someone says something to you and it “makes” you ANGRY, then KNOW that they have told you a TRUTH ABOUT YOURSELF that you have been unwilling to SEE.  For example, if you told me, “Kelly, you are a serial killer.”  I would blow it off as THEY are crazy because I KNOW it is not true.  However, if someone says, “Kelly, you can be an impatient BITCH sometimes”—well, I think we all know that has happened! J

As Johnny Rotten said (and HE would KNOW!), “Anger is an ENERGY!” So please, for YOUR sake, the sake of your families and loved ones, your neighbors, your colleagues, the cashier, the driver in front of you, your pets, you know…the WORLD, FIND HEALTHY ways to RELEASE/LET GO/GET OUT YOUR anger. The suppression of ANGER is the root of ALL UNHAPPINESS and VIOLENCE in this world.  After you, US, THEM, everyONE lets go of anger, there is only peace. 

LIVE your bliss,

Goofy G.u.r.u.