I go by many names, depending on the location: Kelly N Patterson (my "professional" name); KALI (*on the playa); Kelly of the Pattersons (IT world); The Goofy Guru; The Nonprofit Guru; Tornado Maker's Daughter (La Kota Sioux name); Anacheka Oksijeni (East Africa, "She who LAUGHS at Oxygen"); "Kerry" (in NE Asia); "Kali" (Central America and the Caribbean); and most recently, the Radically Honest ART Cheerleader (Miami)
After “playing” in LA for the past month or so, Brittany
(aka, “The Royal B”) and I are ready to get back on the road, on the “Get Goofy
Road Trip”—NOTE: No destination—it is all
about the journey, no?!
Therefore, we are seeking to manifest an eco-conscious, reliable
RV which will be used as our mobile home/hair studio/Goofy Guru office and sanctuary which will allow
US to come to YOU for a hair cut and color healing session (by the Royal B); a Kelly’s Osho Zen tarot reading; a Radical Goofy Guru Coaching Visit; or
just for a FUN visit! Our intention is to spend this summer festival-hopping
and participating in conscious gatherings, in between Radical Goofy Guru
Coaching Visits, all over the Americas!
Instant Manifestation?!
**We are also asking the Universe to send us a 3rd Muppet
for the “Get Goofy Road Trip”-- with a tireless sense of humor, lust for life,
wide open mind and heart, some “superpowers” (which could be cooking, massage,
Reiki, sound healing, music, arts, etc.), and mad film-making skills because we are going to document both Royal
B hair, beauty and self-love sessions as well as Radical Goofy Guru Coaching
for an upcoming web-series.
Seeking a 3rd Muppet!
If you have any leads to a funky, eco-friendly, reliable RV,
or YOU are interested in being part of our Goofy adventure—please message me,
the Goofy Guru at kellyofthepattersons@yahoo.com
Today’s Goofy Guru homework was to write a LOVE LETTER.For the record, I always do MY own
homework!Therefore, I decided to write
a love letter to my future “Yang”.However, you COULD write a love letter to yourself (especially if you have low self-esteem); a parent/your
child/favorite relative; your spouse/partner (to remind them how much you love
them!); your ex-partner (especially
if you need to forgive him/her!); a tree or the ocean; your favorite poet/writer/musician/painter/work
of art; a stranger …or ALL of humanity/GOD/SOURCE/US.
In the 10 minutes or so, it takes you to compose this letter
of LOVE, GRATITUDE and APPRECIATION, you will RAISE your own vibration, as well
as the collective (global) vibration and this letter will ATTRACT more love--in
all its forms--into your life!*And who knows?!Maybe MY future partner will read this and
recognize himself!;)
Welding Work by my friend, Max (Costa Rica)
Love Letter to my Future Partner
Finally, we FOUND each other!For me, because I can be stubborn—it took 4 continents, 2 loving husbands, several
dozen lovers-du-jour, lots of time alone (learning/remembering about myself),
and a lot of cocktails, laughter and tears…and just when I had given up/let go
on finding MY equal DIVINE energy in the form of a MAN, YOU showed up!Happy Birthday to US!
I love how WE SHARE the mission and passion of changing the
world and having a DAMN good time while doing it!YOU are a creative GENIUS!I love how GENEROUS you are with your time,
energy, LOVE, caresses, random gifts, words of affirmation, gifts of service,
massages and empowering words, not only to me, but to EVERYONE you encounter.You FART love—just like me ;)
I love how WE are still
expanding every day, both together as well as individually-- and fully lovingly
support each on our own individual paths and our paths are in harmony.I love your sense of humor and how you teach
me through humor and play.I LOVE your
ability to be goofy and that you totally GET the importance of PLAY, JOY and
LAUGHTER (I do not have to teach you!)I
LOVE how YOU teach me all the time, and in loving, fun, silly ways.I LOVE how you always say YES! to my
shenanigan ideas, as well as contribute a few BRILLIANT goofy ideas of your own—you
are a GRAND co-conspirator! I LOVE how you say YES to everything—new ideas, new
experiences, new adventures, new people, new dimensions…to LIFE!
I LOVE how you make me coffee every morning and massage my
feet (even when I do not ask! *because you KNOW I will never object!)I LOVE how you pick me up little “souvenirs”
that remind you of me, when you are away and YOU have NO FEAR of showing me how
much you love me DAILY.I LOVE that we
can just do “NOTHING” sometimes…dancing around the house, bubble baths, reading
together, painting, whatever etc.Everything is more fun and meaningful when shared with you.
I LOVE your honesty with yourself, me and the world.I LOVE how
you empower others, as much as yourself and I.I LOVE how you dance and *technically, you are always singing and
dancing!I Love how you KNOW when to
take the driver’s seat and when to let me drive—we share the wheel. I LOVE how
clearly we communicate on all levels.I
LOVE how patient you are, because it teaches me patience.I Love how we, as a couple, raise the global
frequency by every act of love we do together, for each other, for ourselves,
and for others.We are a POWERHOUSE of
love individually and when combined our ENERGY/frequency is exponential.I LOVE how WE are showing the world what
Eros/romantic love can look like!
I LOVE how you are able to SEE my beauty/light/LOVE even
when I have diarrhea and feel AND look like, no pun intended, shit.I LOVE that there is TRUST, unpredictable sex,
and TRUE intimacy.I LOVE how you will
grab and kiss me ANYWHERE—on the red carpet, on a bridge during traffic, at a
party, and especially in front of family and friends-- whenever!I LOVE
that you are in love with yourself.I
LOVE THIS STORY; I am so glad we wrote it—well-written!
*Wrote my love letter this morning and then saw THESE signs all day, all over LA! Let's just see what happens! ;)
Recently, Brittany and I attended a 2-hour workshop, “The
Different Faces of Eros”, facilitated by psychotherapist and Relationship Coach, Meriana Dinkova, at Gaia Sangha, with 15 other curious participants, seeking to
explore the different Erotic Archetypes, and the ways these (sometimes
subconscious) strategies can strengthen and/or limit our ability to connect and
ultimately, seduce others.This workshop was part lecture, part
“sharing” and part PLAY, with the opportunity to “try out” a few new Erotic Archetypes
on fellow participants—FUN!
Different Faces of Eros--Erotic Archetypes Workshop in LA
The first concept I recognized about myself is that I tend
to “choose” the men I want to “court”, as opposed to allowing men to “choose”
me.*Control issues, much?!
Meriana explained that people tend to fall into two
categories:Those who “pick” their
mates, and then those who “wait” to be “picked.”Neither method is better than the other, both
have a shadow-side:Those who prefer to
select their potential mate/initiate a connection, may overlook or miss opportunities
to connect with others better suited for them; and those who prefer to “wait”
to be “selected” may end up with a “Plan B”, aka—“second choice” and therefore,
may not be fully satisfied in their relationships.Ideally, one is open to seducing others and receptive when others’ initiate a
connection.
Most of the Erotic Archetypes Meriana introduced to us in
this workshop apply to both genders, but a few are gender specific.I have briefly outlined the Erotic Archetypes
Meriana covered in this workshop below, but for more in-depth insight, well,
you will have to attend one of her workshops (or do your own homework!)
1.The Nice
Guy:Surely, everyone knows “The
Nice Guy.”I define the Nice Guy as the
dude who asks to kiss you.Personally, when a man asks to kiss me, well—not
sexy.However, I did MARRY a Nice
Guy, so the Nice Guy has great long-term relationship/marriage potential.
2.The
Romantic: The Romantic is the male
or female going for the DEEP connection-- seeking “The One”, using terms like
“soul mate”, “twin flame” and tends to seduce by talking about the future
TOGETHER. However, while in pursuit for
the perfect partner, The Romantic may miss opportunities to develop deep
relationships with others.
3.The
Player: The Player can be
Cassanova-esque (all about sensual/sexual conquests) or Don Juan-esque (seeking
authentic intimacy but with multiple partners.)To quote a friend of mine,“I fall in love every day.” And I KNOW he
means it!NOTE:Don’t hate on the Players because they can
make excellent sexual/”play” partners—especially, if you are open to
poly-amorous relationships.
4.The
Helper/Provider: These are the
problem-solvers, healers, heroes,“bread
winners”, the Do-ers’s, people with “Savior Syndrome”, etc. who make our lives
easier.If boundaries are not clear and
honored, relationships with Helpers/Providers can easily slip into
co-dependency. Helpers/Providers tend to
be attracted to the Broken Angel.
5.The
Dom/Rake:The Dom or Rake (male or
female) will grab your ass without even knowing your name.These are the boldest seducers with little to
no respect for others’ personal boundaries—however, the best people to have sex
with in an alley or an elevator.(*For
scientific purposes, everyone should try a Dom/Rake, just for the FUN and
adventure of it!)
6.The
Spiritual Person: The spiritual person will convince you that you shared a
past life together; or that astrologically, you are highly compatible; or,
explain how synchronicity/cosmic connections brought you together. They
will try to convince you that your meeting is fate/destiny.NOTE: They might be RIGHT!
7.The
Broken Angel: This is the
beautifully flawed individual, who seduces you with his or her tragic
past.The Broken Angel’s wounds speak to
you, especially if you have experienced some sort of trauma in your life, or if
you are a Helper/Provider, you will want to “save” them.
8.The
Innocent: The Innocent has very
little life experience, so everything YOU do or have done is AMAZING, exciting,
brilliant to them, and they want you to “show” them the world!However, this relationship can easily turn
into a teacher-student relationship and not an “equal” partnership.
9.The
Corrupter:The Corrupter is
especially attracted to the Innocent, because the Corrupter wants to be your “guide”
and show you the world, both light and dark.
10.The
Amazon: These are the “strong”
women—you know them when you meet
them.They can do EVERYTHING themselves
and often (subconsciously) project to others that they do not want or need
others for anything.They can come off
as intimidating because men (or women, depending on your preference) do not
feel they have anything valuable to contribute to the Amazon.*This archetype spoke to me, and the advice I
was given by Meriana (and the men at
the workshop) was to allow myself to be vulnerable and show my feminine side
more often (so let’s just see what happens!)
11.The
Goddess:The Goddess is all about
entitlement:“I am a Goddess/Queen, so
worship me!” This can lead to a very
one-sided relationship, if The Goddess does not return the worship.
12.The
Nurturer: The Nurturer is the sexy
Mother.She takes care of you, feeds
you, and will most likely have your kids.
So, which Erotic Archetypes speak to you? Do you see a pattern in your seduction
techniques, or the “type” of partners you attract?
Goofy Guru Homework:
For experiment’s sake, next time you have the opportunity, try out a few new
archetypes, specifically ones that are out of your comfort zone and see what
happens!
First of all, let’s stop saying, “stuck in traffic,” because
what you resist, persists and the truth is traffic is a HUGE opportunity for
self-growth and self-love, on many levels: mind, body and spirit.Therefore, I created a list (please feel free
to add!) of mental, physical and spiritual activities, exercises and playful
shenanigans you can do while you are in your vehicle, in traffic.*NOTE: Some of these exercises, like
masturbation, may not be suitable if you are carpooling (well, of course, I
guess it depends on with whom you carpool!)
1.Meditate!Yes, perhaps you should not aim to reach FULL theta state while operating a vehicle, but
you could be doing a chakra cleansing,
a sound healing, or some calming,
energizing or healing chantingwhile
in traffic. Meditating is exponentially more powerful if
you are carpooling and can inspire others to join you!*If you are chanting, the Goofy Guru highly
suggests rolling down the windows and SHARING with other commuters (and no, not
everyone is going to appreciate your
sharing “Mer-Ka-Ba” but who knows?If
you make one person smile, you did your job and it FEELS good, right?!)
Goofy Guru meditating in the back of a convertible
2.Learn a
new language.Seriously, without
even trying, by just putting on instructional language CDs regularly during your daily commute, you could learn a whole new
language in a few months—for FREE!
3.Learn
something/ANYTHING new!You can turn
your vehicle into your own personal classroom—for FREE!You can download entire playlists of TED Talks (“ideas worth sharing”); listen
to an informative or instructional audio book; teach yourself how to play the
harmonica; or even take a FREE online course from top universities!
4.Listen to
a book.“Books are the perfect entertainment: no commercials, no batteries,
hours of enjoyment for each dollar spent. What I wonder is why everybody
doesn't carry a book around for those inevitable dead spots in life.” –
Stephen King
5.Do
your daily positive affirmations. Traffic
is the perfect setting for doing positive affirmations about abundance, good
health, creativity, self-love, or whatever you are seeking to manifest or heal
in your life.*If you search on the
internet you can find dozens of FREE downloadable positive affirmations of
every flavor; you can also find affirmations on popular “music” stations such
as Spotify and Pandora!
6.Do
EFT/Tapping.Just in case you are not familiar with EFT (Emotional
Freedom Technique) --do your own
homework!! but— EFT is a form of psychological acupressure, based on the
same energy meridians used in traditional acupuncture.But instead of needles, simple tapping with
the fingertips is used to input kinetic energy onto specific meridians on throughout
the head and chest.
This combination
of tapping the energy meridians while voicing positive affirmations at the same time works to clear any emotional blocks from your body,
thus restoring your mind and body balance, which, as you know is essential for
optimal health and healing of physical disease. If you do your homework, you will find that EFT can be used to
address ANY issues/concerns/challenges-- from physical ailments to grieving to
money problems to attracting more wealth to “letting go” to dealing with
rejection, relationships, etc.*I am a
fan of Brad Yates.
7.Connect
with your loved ones.You can call
your mother, grandmother, the best friend from college you only talk to once
every 6 months, etc.; traffic is an ideal time to re-connect or catch up with
your cherished ones by phone (which is much more “personal” than texting.)
8.Masturbate!Yes, and I should not have to explain to
you HOW or WHY this is an awesome way to spend your time in traffic!*See,
now you are trying to imagine it…doesn’t THAT make you smile?
9.Look
for messages/guidance.Whether or
not you believe it yet, the Universe
is ALWAYS communicating with you—literally, from bill boards to license plates
to road signs to animals.For example,
ever keep hearing the same song (or commercial) over and over every time you turn on the radio?Well, THAT is the Universe trying to
communicate with you!So listen carefully to the lyrics or the
commercial and try to HEAR the message for you. Pay
attention to billboards, road signs, shop signs, writing on passing vehicles,
etc. that POP OUT at you—this is Source communicating to YOU.*If you really want to have some fun, ask
questions and then look for the answers!
10.Make
FUN signs for other commuters.Brittany
and I keep a dozen signs in the car at all times; signs that read: “Smile!”
“You are awesome!” “You are CUTE!” and several Dr. Seuss quotes.We
also have a “Thank you!” sign we use when people are being conscious,
considerate drivers.*The best part is
that you do not have to limit sign-usage to traffic; we take a few signs with
us everywhere…even at museums, when running errands and on the beach!
11.Create art!The new “fancy” phones have built-in recording apps (in the old days
we used Dictaphones!), so you can record your next poem, song, short story,
play, film, letters to colleagues, Nobel Speech, whatever. At least keep notes on your BRILLIANT ideas
that are going to change the world and bring you a lot of abundance!
12.Massage and stretch.In my experience, massage is much more enjoyable if you can get your
carpool to participate, but you can always massage yourself (with or without
massage tools) and do sitting stretches while in traffic.
13.Radiate Love Meditation.Why not use this valuable time to project
LOVE energy to all people, places and
things?!Start with yourself, then your
family and loved ones, to your neighbors and colleagues, and then send LOVE to
your entire town, then state, then country, and so on (and especially the people who “challenge” you!)Simply
spending 10 minutes in a LOVE meditation not only heals YOU, but also raises
the GLOBAL FREQUENCY.
14.Gratitude Meditation. If you do not have time to maintain a
Gratitude Journal, you can use your time in traffic to acknowledge and honor
all the people, places and things you appreciate—from bees to a tax return to the
health and well-being of your family.You can do this Gratitude Meditation in your head, while driving, or
make it a little more energetic by doing it opera-style or in a foreign accent
(*again, I would suggest rolling down the windows and SHARING!)
15.Dance!You can dance if you want to,
you can leave your friends behind (in traffic)…and if you are feeling
REALLY inspired or goofy, jump out of the car for a quick dance!
Brittany (aka, The Royal B) dancing during traffic
16.Daydream!Probably the MOST effective mind-body-soul exercise you could
possibly do during traffic is DAYDREAM (aka, “manifesting”, “creating”, “visualizing”)
Through your daydreams and “fantasies”, you are really reminding
Source/yourself what you wish to manifest in your life (for further reference,
read: “The Law of Attraction by Abraham Hicks”.)And the best part, if you really FEEL your
daydreams, well, they become reality (but don’t take my word for it, try it for
yourself!)
Therefore, until we remove “The Traffic Story” completely from
collective consciousness and roads, let’s use all this (irreplaceable) time meaningfully
to love our selves, expand mentally, physically and spiritually, AND raise the
global frequency! *And I welcome more BRILLIANT ideas—please SHARE!
Kelly Recipe: 1/4 Indiana Jones; 1/4 Mother Teresa; 1/4 Hunter S Thompson; 1/4 Dr. Seuss--with a side of wasabi. Originally from Washington DC, Kelly has 20 (OMIGOD!! 20?!!! already?) years experience serving international nonprofits, development agencies, academic institutions, the arts, and social entrepreneurial enterprises on four continents--mainly in East and Southern Africa, Central America, NE Asia, and North America--on all levels. Kelly's personal and professional mission is to EVOLVE and therefore, transform the world... and have a DAMN good time while doing it! How does she do it? By showing people how to integrate JOY, PLAY and LAUGHTER into ALL aspects of LIFE! When she is not working, Kelly can usually be found in someone's baby pool with a pomegranate margarita.